My story
My name is Charlie and Iām the founder of Not Just Mum.
I grew up in a home affected by domestic abuse. I heard and saw things no child should have to experience.
What happened did not end when I left that home. It has shaped my mental health and much of my adult life. I live with complex PTSD, have worked through an eating disorder, and have battled anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember.
My formative years were spent surviving. Much of my adulthood has been spent trying to recover.
It took me a long time to understand that what I experienced was not normal - and that it was not okay. Like many people who grow up surrounded by abuse, I did not have the words for it as a child. I only began to recognise the full extent of the harm years later.
I am now in my mid-thirties. When I approached the police and law firms about what had happened, I was told that too much time had passed or that the psychological harm did not meet the threshold for them to take the matter forward.
I was left feeling that there was nowhere for me to go.
But I still want some form of justice - not only for myself, but for others who have lived through similar experiences. In speaking to other adult survivors, I have heard the same need to be recognised, to be heard and to know that what happened to us mattered.
For me, this campaign is about taking back some of the power I did not have as a child.
I started Not Just Mum because children are affected by domestic abuse too. The fear and harm can remain with us long after we become adults.
We cannot change what happened to us. But we can ask Parliament to make the path to civil justice fairer for those who are ready to seek it.
A note on our name
My mum was a victim of domestic abuse, and this campaign does not take anything away from what she - or other direct victims - experienced.
I chose the name Not Just Mum because children live through domestic abuse too. We may experience it differently, but the fear and harm can follow us long into adulthood.
It was happening to her - but I was there too.